Freedom..

April 21st, 2012

I once thought freedom lay in movement…at the same time I took freedom in prose..’I thought little of comfort…slonging as I had palace to lay my head..I had not a need for question..I did this for many years… Until someone caused me to question the quality of the cushion inlay my head upon…

I pardon him with both the gift of realization that I short changed myself and with the evil assumption that am worth more…nice things make us feel more empowered.  And it easy to fall into the line of being thatpredicates doingwhateveris  necessary to acquire said (sad( lifestyle…..luckily I was too stubborn…I hate composing on iPad as the editing does not work and the predictive text- is stupid..

Okay – not looking back-    I sleep a lot….cause I can… Right now.  This is perhaps the biggest gift of freedom…the second will be to walk next door and help someone in the smallest way..if I were brave enough it would be to dance- even in my own house I am too shy to though I used totake revel in dancing ,,,,,but I feel shamed now because I feel I am too old…. It sucks.like what I do in the socialy accepted practice of yoga – I would do in dance…and I feel rediculous….Self expressn through movement…..but within a paradigm unaccepted for my age..I feel blocked to practice..

 

Llet go….

For me to remember – FROM ZAMM

April 4th, 2012

Today now I want to take up the first phase of his journey into Quality, the nonmetaphysical phase, and this will be pleasant. It’s nice to start journeys pleasantly, even when you know they won’t end that way. Using his class notes as reference material I want to reconstruct the way in which Quality became a working concept for him in the teaching of rhetoric. His second phase, the metaphysical one, was tenuous and speculative, but this first phase, in which he simply taught rhetoric, was by all accounts solid and pragmatic and probably deserves to be judged on its own merits, independently of the second phase.

He’d been innovating extensively. He’d been having trouble with students who had nothing to say. At first he thought it was laziness but later it became apparent that it wasn’t. They just couldn’t think of anything to say.

One of them, a girl with strong-lensed glasses, wanted to write a five-hundred-word essay about the United States. He was used to the sinking feeling that comes from statements like this, and suggested without disparagement that she narrow it down to just Bozeman.

When the paper came due she didn’t have it and was quite upset. She had tried and tried but she just couldn’t think of anything to say.

He had already discussed her with her previous instructors and they’d confirmed his impressions of her. She was very serious, disciplined and hardworking, but extremely dull. Not a spark of creativity in her anywhere. Her eyes, behind the thick-lensed glasses, were the eyes of a drudge. She wasn’t bluffing him, she really couldn’t think of anything to say, and was upset by her inability to do as she was told.

It just stumped him. Now he couldn’t think of anything to say. A silence occurred, and then a peculiar answer: “Narrow it down to the main street of Bozeman.” It was a stroke of insight.

She nodded dutifully and went out. But just before her next class she came back in real distress, tears this time, distress that had obviously been there for a long time. She still couldn’t think of anything to say, and couldn’t understand why, if she couldn’t think of anything about all of Bozeman, she should be able to think of something about just one street.

He was furious. “You’re not looking!” he said. A memory came back of his own dismissal from the University for having too much to say. For every fact there is an infinity of hypotheses. The more you look the more you see. She really wasn’t looking and yet somehow didn’t understand this.

He told her angrily, “Narrow it down to the front of one building on the main street of Bozeman. The Opera House. Start with the upper left-hand brick.”

Her eyes, behind the thick-lensed glasses, opened wide. She came in the next class with a puzzled look and handed him a five-thousand-word essay on the front of the Opera House on the main street of Bozeman, Montana. “I sat in the hamburger stand across the street,” she said, “and started writing about the first brick, and the second brick, and then by the third brick it all started to come and I couldn’t stop. They thought I was crazy, and they kept kidding me, but here it all is. I don’t understand it.”

Neither did he, but on long walks through the streets of town he thought about it and concluded she was evidently stopped with the same kind of blockage that had paralyzed him on his first day of teaching. She was blocked because she was trying to repeat, in her writing, things she had already heard, just as on the first day he had tried to repeat things he had already decided to say. She couldn’t think of anything to write about Bozeman because she couldn’t recall anything she had heard worth repeating. She was strangely unaware that she could look and see freshly for herself, as she wrote, without primary regard for what had been said before. The narrowing down to one brick destroyed the blockage because it was so obvious she had to do some original and direct seeing.

He experimented further. In one class he had everyone write all hour about the back of his thumb. Everyone gave him funny looks at the beginning of the hour, but everyone did it, and there wasn’t a single complaint about “nothing to say.”

In another class he changed the subject from the thumb to a coin, and got a full hour’s writing from every student. In other classes it was the same. Some asked, “Do you have to write about both sides?” Once they got into the idea of seeing directly for themselves they also saw there was no limit to the amount they could say. It was a confidence-building assignment too, because what they wrote, even though seemingly trivial, was nevertheless their own thing, not a mimicking of someone else’s. Classes where he used that coin exercise were always less balky and more interested.

As a result of his experiments he concluded that imitation was a real evil that had to be broken before real rhetoric teaching could begin. This imitation seemed to be an external compulsion. Little children didn’t have it. It seemed to come later on, possibly as a result of school itself.

That sounded right, and the more he thought about it the more right it sounded. Schools teach you to imitate. If you don’t imitate what the teacher wants you get a bad grade. Here, in college, it was more sophisticated, of course; you were supposed to imitate the teacher in such a way as to convince the teacher you were not imitating, but taking the essence of the instruction and going ahead with it on your own. That got you A’s. Originality on the other hand could get you anything…from A to F. The whole grading system cautioned against it.

He discussed this with a professor of psychology who lived next door to him, an extremely imaginative teacher, who said, “Right. Eliminate the whole degree-and-grading system and then you’ll get real education.”

Phædrus thought about this, and when weeks later a very bright student couldn’t think of a subject for a term paper, it was still on his mind, so he gave it to her as a topic. She didn’t like the topic at first, but agreed to take it anyway.

Within a week she was talking about it to everyone, and within two weeks had worked up a superb paper. The class she delivered it to didn’t have the advantage of two weeks to think about the subject, however, and was quite hostile to the whole idea of eliminating grades and degrees. This didn’t slow her down at all. Her tone took on an old-time religious fervor. She begged the other students to listen, to understand this was really right. “I’m not saying this for him,” she said and glanced at Phædrus. “It’s for you.”

Her pleading tone, her religious fervor, greatly impressed him, along with the fact that her college entrance examinations had placed her in the upper one percent of the class. During the next quarter, when teaching “persuasive writing,” he chose this topic as a “demonstrator,” a piece of persuasive writing he worked up by himself, day by day, in front of and with the help of the class.

He used the demonstrator to avoid talking in terms of principles of composition, all of which he had deep doubts about. He felt that by exposing classes to his own sentences as he made them, with all the misgivings and hang-ups and erasures, he would give a more honest picture of what writing was like than by spending class time picking nits in completed student work or holding up the completed work of masters for emulation. This time he developed the argument that the whole grading system and degree should be eliminated, and to make it something that truly involved the students in what they were hearing, he withheld all grades during the quarter.

 

2.25.12

March 8th, 2012

I want to lay my head upon your chest…forget that time spins the earth…for something a bit more than a power nap.  i love the way your skin feels next to mine.. when i can feel the weight of your head upon my chest…when your hair is wtill wet and your eyes do that green to steel blue trick- right after you get out of the shower..when your tone drops me to my knees when you call me baby…when you make those little mm..sounds from something of looking

and then there a whole work of ink + paint + lead + text poundings created every minute of my life since i’ve met you…waiting to come out for you to take in…

and again i say you are right….i don’t need any time///to know in me chest pump…that for the very first time – i belong…that i know im yours

much maddly in love with you – always

-wil

…time…

March 2nd, 2012

is uncompressing for me..i woke up late..in my living space i found dust and clutter and started in on a earnest effort to make life shiny and pretty again.  as i started to work i glanced  at the clock and thought to myself ‘darn, its almost 10 already’

but then i stopped myself and I said, ‘that’s okay’, this is important work and I kept working…

almost finished i looked back at that clock and shockingly…10am had not yet come…and the dust was disappearing – the dining table was once again a place for repose – and it was shiny again…

 

.a different kind of pain…

February 29th, 2012

..the kind that makes you face your own fears more head on than ever before..that shakes you with unforgiving tentacles binding you to an inner strength that takes on a life uncompromising and that will not apologize…that drives you further to yourself…that can only be felt when love becomes a tangible indelible fact and not illusory romance or practical circumstance…

when he asked me why…i said i did not have a choice…in view of all the reasonings of why not – not one single cell felt anything but a future ahead…one that we would face together…the only abandonment possible through finality of death..

…and now, for once the dread that usually lurks inside now drives my fingertips with action of necessity…the sadness is erased by the search for the path to life….

unhindered…

February 5th, 2012

..by conventional modes of behaviouristic thinking i tend to view and experience myself, the world and others through what i hope to be more clearer spectacles…it is impossible to allow the heart to watch while you are caught up in judgement…difficult as it is to put away that sheild and expose your love to the pain around you…and yet i am reminded of the beauty in that action..as the creatures grow older simplifying into the refinement of well constructed complexities my heart swells and my head tends to follow…the words return.

hidden depths unrevealed in earlier writing are surfacing…slow digestions of past failure and regret for the blindness of my fearful child…under the looking glass of evolved relationships…are not as disgusting as i thought but rather a beautiful reflection of our trials…of our histories…of life, simple and not so simple life…one experience never less than the one before that allowed it to shake us, sooth our souls or bring a resounding sigh of joy for being alive…yes. being alive.it is okay to live.

If I am not here anymore….

December 27th, 2011

then who exactly is left?  the angry words have left.  i wrote … “no more tradition, no yearning for family, no odd preparations, needs, distinctions….nothing but pure beauty.”  i just thought i was having a moment of insanity….but now here i am and it is so peaceful i am afraid to move…a cocoon…a place of rest…of absolution.  there is a quiet i am unwilling to let go of right now.  not until the words flow again.  who i am stripped of all of the compromise. a place to meditate in. a safe place for me to be me in.  i should not need to become entrenched in the games ever again.  my approach is reset.  or real and certain death…withoutopportunityof.rebirth.

Old longings

November 12th, 2011
i miss you and
i cry for you and
this is real and
why aren’t you here and
why and
why, please
will you hear me?and
why don’t you come?and
will you hear me and will you answer
will you come to me and love and
do you love and
will you touch my cheek and
will you cry
will you love, do you and
why? where are you?
cry to me, come to me
you cannot forget….

learning to live

October 20th, 2011

… a reminder to self..while i’ve been living in a world of dreams – for a day that may never come (ah but it might)…these many many souls that live for today and for each other have scattered themselves across your life though you barely noticed. view their passion for one another.  learn from the ecstasy they find in the simplicity of a connection through the windows of soul.  remember when you also one did……..

death revisited…

October 4th, 2011

When I was a 13, a girl in class was telling our circle of feathered hair wonders about how her daddy pulled out a gun on her and her mother.  I started to tell her a similar story of my own.  She said I was lying and I just wanted to get some attention. She was half right.  (that didn’t make my reality any less).

Three years later, when I 16, my mother left my father and I was not allowed to go home.  I cursed the guidance office at Massabesic High School for not ‘letting’ me go home.  They called me down to the office the day after my mom told me she was leaving, over the school intercom, “Blah, blah blah, please go to the guidance office?”  I stood shaking my head as my ‘trying too hard’ blew carnivorous breath into to seemingly innocent questions.,  ” do you have place to go?” –  “Yeah, my home.” — “No, I can’t let you do that.” –”too bad” — ” No I don’t think you understand, I can’t let you leave the office until I know you will be going elsewhere..”

Luckily, I caught on quick those days and provided a reference to a close classmate.  I wouldn’t have gone home except by the graces of the ‘good graces’ of a senior who drove me home quickly to retrieve some clothes…  He did however extract his dues years later on a ‘catch-up’ date where i found myself grappling with his slimy tongue.  AH.  Boys and piranha share similar genes..

Post this… they tell me my daddy pulled a gun out for my brother when he went to visit while we were gone….  “Please shoot me son..”

what sorrow beget this/

He died of cancer when i was in Florida being a kid.  It was five days before my 21st birthday.  The one that know how to comfort me through that time committed suicide not a few years later.

I flew home just in time for the funeral.  I stared at the plastic figurine that they had stuffed and placed in the coffin for me to day goodbye to ( for my personal comfort) and thanked God he had been delivered from his tragic life.  My eyes ere dry.   I hear my aunt was there by his bedside with her bible telling him it was still time to for him to be saved…right up tho the end…  I SHOULD HAVE BEEN THERE. to save him from all the people that didn’t recognize the tragedy was not in his salvation… but in the lack of recognition of his greatness.

I met my bible school teacher and other strangers and i did my best to be polite…

..not too many years later I find myself holding the head of a boy whom entered my self-container life in Portland, Me..  He was crying.  I was crying.  It was not later than 10 days after the anniversary of my fathers passing.  I hadn’t even visited his stone.

The boy had been living with me on and off because he had just returned from California and the home he had to go back to was terrible..when he wasn’t at my home he was at a friends or maybe a shelter.. I didn’t know.

He told me of his father’s death. I fought with him for days over whether or not he should go to the service…what he should wear..the day of the service finally came and he refused to go.  At the last minute I convinced him to let me bring him to the burials.  It was cold, a good reason not to get out of the car.  We pulled up across the dirt cemetery path from the internment..   A group had gathered around it.  He would not get out of the car so we sat and watched the weeping figures as the casket was lowered into the ground..  He told me who was who; aunts, mother, etc

A month later I drove a couple of friend to a dead show in Memphis.  On the way home a woman accelerated on the on ramp and then stopped dead.  I was sucked in an read ended her.  He was still my comfort zone so I figured I’d call for him.  His friend (with me) said,  “I think he is at his dad’s”  I didn’t think too much of the fact that he refered to a dead mans home as being where Chris would be, after all is was the family home…

I called, “brring bring.. hello is Christ there?”  A voice heavy with smoke and alcohol responds, “Nope”. I bite, ” Who’s this this??”"  “his Dad of course…”  (OH – GREAT)  I respond, “I heard you went in the hospital…” –”Yeah, for awhile I had some problems..” (the heroin caught up with him?) “OH” I say, “But you’re feeling better now huh?” – “Yup”//